A friend suggested I have a look at an account on instagram called Yoga girl. She is amazing. the reason though was not the yoga. She lost her best friend/soul mate/sister from another mother. At exactly the same time her friend was gone in a car crash she collapsed at an airport with a ruptured appendix. She tells her story with emotions and heart. You can feel her loss and pain and it hurts to read in a good way.
When I was 32 weeks pregnant with my first kiddie, My partner suffered a stroke. He collapsed at work and was rushed to hospital without them knowing what had happened yet.
We spent 7 hours in emergency waiting for a bed in a city hospital. He had suffered a massive bleed in his brain and had lapsed into a coma which was further induced to keep him stable.
Eventually a bed was available and he was airlifted down the coast to the hospital.
I was stuck three hours away. We followed down in the car all the while the doctors were calling me and keeping me updated with his condition.
By the time i made it to the hospital, they had completed surgery and trained the blood from his head. He was stable yet still in a coma and the outcome of damage from the stroke was yet to be known.
The doctor that performed the life saving surgery was the same doctor that only nine months earlier had saved my brothers life after serious head trauma from an accident (I have already written of his story in earlier posts)
Once my partner was finally aroused from his coma, he had no speech problems thankfully. His memory was atrocious and he was completely paralysed down his right side.
In short he was to recover as best he could before they performed brain surgery to cut out the vein that had burst causing the bleed. This was around 4/5 weeks.
He had brain surgery planned for the 5th and baby was due on the 10th. Not knowing how well he would be after the surgery I did not want to take the risk of him missing the birth.
The doctors induced me and my daughter was born in 5 hours in the 1st. A blissful 4 days with her was had by us all, then the surgery.
He came through really well and only had the right leg to continue to work on in physio.
There are a multitude of emotions that went along this journey with me, I will detail them one day. today is not the day. I am not in a frame of mind to go back to this place, it was hard, lonely and scary, the feelings continued long after the incident.
I have no great lesson for you that has come from this event in my life. I don't believe there is one to tell. It happened, It was shit, It still is shit and makes me cry. But I am here I survived as did he. I wouldn't say either of us are the same as we were before that happened yet none of us stay the same anyway so perhaps it wouldn't have altered our path regardless.
Moments in life test you and your reaction can sometimes surprise yourself. I know I am strong, stronger again after a moment such as this.
